It’s Cyber Monday!! I want to make sure that while you are surfing online for this year’s holiday gifts for your loved ones, you don’t forget to treat yourself too. I know that I love buying new books for myself and my practice. I recently finished reading these three books. I would suggests all three of them if you work with members of the LGBTQ+ community, or couples.
I recently had the honor of interviewing Kitty Chambliss, the author of Jealousy Survival Guide, How to feel safe, happy and secure in an open relationship on my podcast Pride Connections. She is a wonderful relationship coach, advocate and recently a published author. I purchased her book after interviewing her, and found it to be a great step by step guide to dealing with jealousy in not only non-monogamous relationships, but any type of romantic partnership. Kitty reassures readers that jealousy is natural and not something that should be suppressed. Kitty shares her own story on how she came to realize that she wasn’t made for monogamy and how she has navigated this journey. I enjoyed the activities throughout the book, which helps readers with self-reflection and a guide on how to address jealously. This book is a quick read, straightforward, and sometime humorous. I really enjoyed this book.
Another author that I interviewed this year was Dara Hoffman-Fox. Dara is a Gender Therapist who just released the book You and Your Gender Identity: A Guide to Discovery , which is now a bestseller. There is a reason that it’s a bestseller. This book is a great guide anyone who is sstruggling with their gender identity and for therapists that are helping their clients on the journey. Dara offers step-by-step guide on how to go about discovering more about personal identity, sexual orientation and how to make sure you engage in self-care throughout the process. There needs to be more books out there such as this one.
Finally, the book that changed my view on non-monogamous relationships. The Ethical Slut, Third Edition: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love. You need to add this book to your holiday list. It is amazing. Most of us haven’t been trained on how to work with clients that are in open relationships. This book is a must read for any therapist. Researching is showing that the newer generations are becoming more open to relationships that are fluid and non-monogamous. I enjoyed this books exploration around the meaning of “cheating” and the importance of a solid primary relationship. I believe this book should be a requirement for grad school students.
Treat yourself today to a few new books. Be sure to make time to enjoy them. It can be a busy season, remember not to forget about yourself.